Jerry Stiller and Anne Meara

 He was a Jewish kid from Brooklyn. She was an Irish-Catholic girl from Brooklyn. They met in an agent's waiting room. He asked her for coffee. She ordered just a coffee because she could tell he had no money — then took all the silverware. He picked up her 10-cent check and thought: this is the girl I want to spend my life with. They were married 61 years. They made 36 appearances on The Ed Sullivan Show. And their son became 1 of the most successful comedian-directors in Hollywood history.

This is Jerry Stiller and Anne Meara. 1970s.

And their story is 1 of the most genuinely warm love stories in the history of American comedy.

Gerald Isaac Stiller was born on June 8, 1927, in Brooklyn, New York. His father, William, was a bus driver whose own parents had emigrated from Galicia. His mother, Bella, had come from Poland. The family was Jewish, working-class, and grounded in the particular rhythms of New York Jewish life that would eventually become the raw material for everything Jerry did on stage and screen.

He was stage-struck from childhood. He studied drama at Syracuse University — graduating with a Bachelor of Arts — and moved back to New York determined to make it as an actor. He worked in small theater productions. He was in a production of Peter Pan, alongside actress Veronica Lake. He joined an improvisational theater company called the Compass Players in St. Louis — the same company that would later evolve into the famous Second City troupe that launched decades of American comedians.

He was building. Slowly, seriously, without any particular safety net.

Anne Meara was born on September 20, 1929, in Brooklyn — though she grew up in Woodmere, Long Island. Her father was a lawyer. Her childhood contained something that never left her: when she was just 11 years old, her mother died by suicide. That loss — abrupt, unexplained, unprocessable at 11 — sat underneath everything she did for the rest of her life.

She was, by her own description, a red-haired, loud, Irish-Catholic girl who loved performing and disdained comedians. She had studied briefly at The New School in Manhattan and launched her acting career in summer stock in 1948. She wanted to be a serious actress. Comedy was not the plan.

Then she walked into a casting office in Manhattan in 1953.

Jerry Stiller was already in the waiting room.

"I took her out for coffee," Jerry recalled decades later. "She seemed to sense I had no money, so she just ordered coffee. Then she took all the silverware. I picked up her check for 10 cents and thought: this is a girl I'd like to hang out with."

They began dating immediately.

In 1954, at a time when Jewish-Catholic intermarriage raised significant eyebrows in both communities, Jerry Stiller and Anne Meara got married anyway.

"When I met Anne," Jerry explained later, "nobody of my own background wanted to marry me."

Their families had reservations. Their communities had reservations. The couple had exactly none. They signed a marriage certificate and went back to work on being funny.

The comedy act was not Anne's idea.

Jerry had watched her in everyday conversation and knew she was naturally, effortlessly hilarious — with the timing, the instincts, the physical expressiveness of a born comedian. He kept telling her. She kept dismissing him. She had disdained comedians her whole career. She was not going to become one.

He wore her down.

"Jerry started us being a comedy team," she said in an interview years later. "He always thought I would be a great comedy partner. At that time in my life, I disdained comedians."

Their first sketch together was called "Jonah" — Anne played a TV news reporter, Jerry played an older man from Miami Beach who had been swallowed by a whale. They performed it in a small Greenwich Village club.

The audience laughed. Then laughed harder.

They kept going.

By the late 1950s, Stiller and Meara were performing in major nightclubs across America — the Blue Angel in New York, clubs in Las Vegas, venues in Chicago and Los Angeles. Their comedy was built around what they actually were: a Jewish man and an Irish-Catholic woman, married, navigating the hilarious and genuine culture clash of their everyday life.

They wrote from life because their life was genuinely funny.

On April 7, 1963, they made their first appearance on The Ed Sullivan Show.

"Sullivan scared the stuff out of me," Anne recalled in a 2010 interview. "I wasn't the only one. There were international favourites from all over the world throwing up in the wings — singers and tenors and guys who spin plates. It was live. We were scared."

They did not look scared on screen. They looked like 2 people who had been making each other laugh for a decade and had simply invited the country to watch.

The audience responded immediately. Ed Sullivan booked them back. Then back again. Over the following decade, Stiller and Meara logged 36 appearances on The Ed Sullivan Show — a number that placed them among the most frequently featured acts in the program's history. Historycentral

They recorded comedy albums. They wrote and performed radio commercials — most famously a long-running series of spots for Blue Nun wine, in which they played a bickering couple whose arguments kept looping back to the wine. The spots ran for years. Blue Nun became 1 of the best-selling imported wines in America, credited in significant part to the Stiller and Meara campaign.

Their daughter Amy was born in 1961. Their son Benjamin Edward Stiller was born on November 30, 1965.

Ben grew up watching his parents perform. He grew up backstage at comedy clubs and television studios, watching 2 professional funny people navigate marriage, career, creative partnership, and parenthood simultaneously. He grew up understanding, from the inside, that comedy is not just a gift. It is a discipline. It is craft. It is 2 people who love each other enough to keep telling the truth.

In the 1970s, after more than a decade together, Stiller and Meara dissolved the act.

Not the marriage. The act.

Anne resumed the serious acting career she had always wanted. She appeared in films — The Out-of-Towners, Fame, Awakenings. She won an Obie Award for stage work. She wrote a Broadway play called After-Play — a comedy about 2 New York couples having dinner after seeing a Broadway show — in which she and Jerry starred together, because some collaborations cannot be fully dissolved no matter how deliberately you try.

She received 4 Emmy Award nominations across her television career. She won a Writers Guild Award in 1983 for co-writing the TV movie The Other Woman.

Jerry went to television. He appeared in Seinfeld beginning in 1993, playing Frank Costanza — the volatile, screaming, inappropriately intense father of George Costanza — in a role that introduced him to an entirely new generation that had not been born when Stiller and Meara were appearing on Ed Sullivan. Frank Costanza gave the world Festivus — the "holiday for the rest of us," a Seinfeld invention that has entered actual cultural practice, with people genuinely celebrating it every December 23 around the world.

He appeared in The King of Queens from 1998 to 2007. He appeared in films directed by his son Ben — Zoolander, Heavyweights. He was 92 years old when he died, still beloved by 2 completely separate generations who knew him for 2 completely different things.

Anne Meara died on May 23, 2015, in New York City. She was 85 years old. They had been married for 61 years.

The family's statement read: "She is survived by her husband and partner in life Jerry Stiller. The two were married for 61 years and worked together almost as long."

Jerry Stiller died on May 11, 2020, in New York City. He was 92 years old. He had outlived Anne by 5 years.

Their son Ben Stiller — who directed There's Something About Mary, Zoolander, The Royal Tenenbaums, Tropic Thunder, and the Zoolander franchise, and who has his own star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame — wrote simply: "I'm sad to say that my father, Jerry Stiller, passed away from natural causes. He was a great dad and grandfather, and the most dedicated husband to Anne for about 62 years. He will be greatly missed."

About 62 years.

A Jewish kid from Brooklyn and an Irish-Catholic girl from Long Island, in a waiting room in 1953, a 10-cent cup of coffee, and all the silverware on the table.

Look at this photograph.

The 1970s. The act has been dissolved. The careers are going in separate directions. But she is leaning over his shoulder with the ease of someone who has been leaning on this person for 20 years and has not once found the position uncomfortable.

He is looking at the camera with the face of a man who knows exactly what is behind him.

Share this with someone who needs to be reminded — that the best creative partnerships and the best love stories are often the same thing, and that 10 cents and a stolen fork can be the beginning of 61 years.